How Families Can Notice Aggression in Children, Teens, and Adults That May Need Therapy

Recognising signs of aggression in individuals of any age is crucial. Whether you're concerned about a child, teenager, or adult family member, early support and professional guidance can help prevent more serious emotional and behavioural issues from developing. At Lighthouse Therapy Hub, we provide compassionate, professional therapy for individuals and families navigating aggressive behaviour.

What Is Aggression?

Aggression refers to behaviour intended to harm or intimidate others. It can take many forms and appear differently depending on age and life experience. Common types include:

• Physical aggression – Hitting, kicking, pushing, biting, or throwing objects

• Verbal aggression – Yelling, name-calling, insulting, or threatening

• Emotional/psychological aggression – Bullying, manipulation, intimidation, or controlling behaviour

For some, aggressive behaviour may be a way of coping with overwhelming emotions, past trauma, or mental health conditions.

Signs of Aggression Across Age Groups

Aggression can look different in children, adolescents, and adults. Here are key signs to be aware of:

In Children

• Frequent tantrums, hitting, biting, or throwing objects

• Name-calling, threats, or persistent defiance

• Bullying siblings or classmates

• Damaging toys or property

In Teenagers

• Physical fights or threats of violence

• Verbal abuse or aggressive outbursts

• Withdrawal, self-harm, or risk-taking behaviour

• Angry or oppositional attitude towards authority

In Adults

• Regular outbursts or shouting

• Physical intimidation or aggressive body language

• Destructive behaviour (e.g., damaging property)

• Domestic or workplace aggression

• Emotional abuse or controlling behaviour in relationships

What Causes Aggression?

There are many possible causes of aggressive behaviour, which may vary with age:

• Neurological development – Children, teens and adults may lack the skills to manage big emotions

• Trauma or abuse – Past traumatic experiences can result in defensive or explosive responses

• Mental health conditions – Such as ADHD, autism spectrum conditions, depression, anxiety, PTSD, or personality disorders

• Environmental factors – Stress, conflict at home, peer pressure, or work-related burnout

• Substance use – Drugs and alcohol can lower impulse control and increase irritability.

How Families Can Support Loved Ones Displaying Aggression

Whether you're supporting a child, teenager, or adult, here are practical ways to help:

• Stay calm and listen – Help them feel heard and safe when expressing emotions

• Talk about feelings – Encourage open, non-judgemental conversations about what they’re experiencing

• Set clear boundaries – Define what behaviour is acceptable while reinforcing empathy and respect

• Model positive behaviour – Show healthy ways to handle frustration, anger, or conflict

• Seek professional support – Therapy can provide a safe space to explore and understand aggressive behaviour

At Lighthouse Therapy Hub, we offer tailored support to help individuals of all ages manage anger and aggression constructively.

When to Seek Professional Help

Professional help is recommended if aggression:

• Interferes with relationships, education, or work

• Leads to self-harm or suicidal thoughts

• Involves threats or actual harm to others

• Includes emotional abuse or control

• Causes concern for safety at home or elsewhere

Aggression is often a sign that someone is struggling internally, whether they are a young child, a teenager under pressure, or an adult facing unresolved issues. With early support and professional guidance, aggressive behaviour can be managed and replaced with healthier coping strategies.

At Lighthouse Therapy Hub, we’re here to help individuals and families across all ages navigate life’s challenges with compassion and care.